Somewhere along the way, humans seemed to form the belief that they can control their emotions..that they can prevent themselves from feeling bad ones and switch positive ones on with the force of a smile..
You can temporarily.. but they never really dissipate..
Trying to control and judge our emotions is one of the most damaging things we can do to ourselves.
They are natural, part of nature and we can control them as much as we can control the weather.
In clinic, I often describe emotions in relation to the weather.. I find it helps to let go and allow them.
Some days you wake up and it’s sunny outside and life feels warm and good. Other days it’s a little cloudy and some days you can just feel that storm brewing…
We don’t stand outside our door trying to control the weather, or blaming ourselves for the weather.
We adjust. We go with it, we let it flow, we protect ourselves as needed and just wait for it to pass.
And being like the clouds, sadness is the same. The rain, our tears, store up for the downfall. And when that downfall hits, sometimes it’s a little sun shower, sometimes it’s days of thunder, rain and lightening. But eventually it passes and there’s a rainbow, some sunshine and everything feels fresh again!
Anger, I describe to children, is like a thunderstorm. It’s loud, it’s scary and it often ends in rain..but when it’s over, you can feel the pressure release.
Fear is more like the wind.. sometimes it’s always hanging around, like a draught, sometimes it’s big and scary, sometimes it’s unpredictable like a tornado.. it can be wild or it can be that gentle breeze..sometimes you even enjoy it!
With thunderstorms and clouds, you can feel the pressure when the anticipation of release is there. You hope for it to rain because you will find release.. if we can apply the same way of thinking to our emotions we would be a lot freer with ourselves! The rain, being like raindrops, is essential for the growth of all things. Without rain, we cannot produce and sustain life..
I can’t say that enough – without rain we cannot produce and sustain life
Ask yourself – is there an area in my life that just might need a little rain?
It really is amazing what shifts you can see if you let yourself go with the flow of nature.
Ps – I often describe arguments as thunderstorms to children – it helps them not be fearful of them!