Is Somebody Else Making You Unhappy?

Unfortunately we live in a world where people hurt other people..

why do they do so?

Sometimes because they are unhappy themselves, sometimes its lashing out in anger, sometimes the reason is buried out of sight..

I have not found one person who at some stage has not been hurt by something somebody has said or done

or who has at some stage hurt somebody else because of what they were feeling inside.

But I have found that there is a difference between the people who take that thing on, hold onto it tight and make themselves miserable at the hands of somebody else…

& the people who feel hurt but choose to let it go, forgive the other person and continue to live their lives joyfully.

The first is somebody who makes themselves out to be a victim or who feels victimised.. They feel that they have no or limited power to stand up for themselves or their self esteem is low – in some way they believe that person is right or that person is more powerful than they are.

The second is a person who believes in themselves.. regardless of what other people say. The untruths that other people say to them become a non-issue- because their minds and hearts truly know that what they have said is not true, or doesn’t matter in the big scheme of things.

 

If you find yourself falling into the first category try this little exercise:

Take yourself out of the situation for a moment..

Step back and see it like it was on a movie screen.. 

what do you see with the characters.. 

One may be being hurtful… but the other is choosing to believe the things they are saying.. 

They are choosing to let the other person make them feel powerless

 

Don’t give others the responsibility of your happiness, there just is no need for giving away that kind of power

Do yourself a favour and see yourself as the beautiful powerful person you really are!

They may say words which may sting, but let their opinion go.. the more you buy into their words, the more power they have over you.

 

Say to yourself – I choose not to believe the things they are saying..

“I am a beautiful, powerful human being!”